I felt compelled to write this post after I received several comments and messages how I "have it all figured out," and I "balance everything so well" and the women would say, "I just don't know how you do it all."
Well, let me tell you something...I definitely DO NOT have it all figured out, and I am so sorry for failing all of you for leading you to believe that I do.
What's not pictured on my Instagram feed is my daughter pooping her pants at the library, when all three of my children are crying in the grocery store check out line, and how I'm horrible at doing laundry...like really awful.
I forget stuff for the kids.
My house is almost always a disaster.
I mean, obviously I can't snap pictures of these things as their happening....but I'm here to tell you that they do happen...every single day.
We all have our strengths and we all have our weaknesses...and we all need to learn from each other. Fitness and nutrition is my job and this is why I'm good at getting my workouts in and planning healthy meals for my family. I post about these things so I can help as many other moms as I can.
One of my best friends always tells me that I'm just so good at this mom thing, and she feels like she's not...but my best friend is also a Physician's Assistant at a big city hospital in the ER. She goes to work and saves people's lives...then she goes home to be a mom to her one year old son...THAT Is amazing and that is HER strength.
We need to stop comparing ourselves to others and focus on what we are good at. Just STOP, because balance looks different on everyone.
Here are some things that help me achieve balance being a mom primarily, and running a fitness business on the side:
1. Have you ever heard the term, "Change your mind, change your life.?" If you change your perspective and your mindset, you will just feel better overall. Accept that perfection doesn't exist...even when it looks like it on social media...it just doesn't.
2. Go to bed early and wake up early. Having a few minutes in the morning to collect your thoughts, read for ten minutes, and have your cup of coffee in silence is a game changer. Trust me, you will be a better wife, mom, friend, and employee for it.
3. Sweat every day, even if it's only for 20 minutes. Now that I have three children, going to the gym is out of the question for me. I've been working out at home for the past three years and seeing the best results that I have in my entire life, and for a fraction of the cost.
4. Take a few minutes once per week to loosely plan your week. Figure out what you're having for dinner and go grocery shopping one time. Don't wait until the last minute to figure out what's for dinner. You will feel disorganized and all over the place, and it will be easier for you to opt for an easy and unhealthy option. A few minutes of planning goes a long way.
5. Never stop learning. If there's an area of your life that you want to improve, listen to a podcast or read a book about it. Download the podcast app on your phone and listen when you drive. There are podcasts for EVERYTHING and they are FREE. If you're always learning and growing yourself, you will be a better person for it.
If you're looking to really achieve balance in 2017 and you need accountability to these things listed above, I would love to help you get there.
Please click here to fill out this form, and together we will figure out what would work best for you. I'm so proud of the fact that I've been able to help hundreds of women around the country achieve more balance in their lives and help them reach their health and fitness goals.
And just stop scrolling Instagram :).